ASK YOURSELF: Why would this person want to be with you? How considerate, independent, funny and interesting are you? Relationships of all kinds are the classrooms in which we learn all about life. The possibility of being hooked at the deepest level makes love relationships so taxing. Women often look to a man to complete them, particularly financially. But, the truth is that you need to have a deep relationship with yourself. Then, you can have one with others.